Be A Gentleman And Let Me Have The Last Word

When an argument takes place most men don’t know the secret of winning over women. And I will reveal that secret now. However, many men don’t use it and still argue and try to make a woman different person or prove her that he is right. And it is all wrong as women will never forgive the loss, even if they know they are wrong. The importance of having the last word seems to funny at some times as they are just words and no matter what being said we can stay with our own point inside and nobody can change it.

Not only women but anybody will respond aggressively if they are not treated right. Having the last word is not the sign of winning the battle. A nice talk and coming together to the right conclusion will go further. It’s very hard though to concentrate on having a good conversation and solving a problem when you want to prove that you are right. Everybody wants to have a last word so the argument goes on and on. Still men forget about the secret of winning over the woman. It is not similar to the taming of the shrew, nothing like that. The guy in that romance was very tough on the shrew.

Most women are stubborn and won’t give away their beliefs easily. I have noticed that my husband found that secret to have a peace with me. He started letting me have the last word and I have nothing more to say. Me having the last does not mean that I’m the boss and I make all the decisions. We should make them together but as a woman and the person who takes care of the most things that have to do with the family and house and etc I believe I do deserve the right to be given the last word. At the same time we shouldn’t forget about respect and dignity. If a man being nice enough to give you the last word, give him the right to turn those words into action

Watching a Romance movie with my husband was a disaster!

I always knew that my husband wasn’t the biggest romantic man in the world but I had my high hopes to change it one day. I have organized many surprise “dates” for two of us. Whether it be in the theatre, park or museum all went well and we both enjoyed our time together. Although he didn’t bring me any of those surprises yet I know one day he will. Last Saturday we went to our favorite sushi place. The atmosphere and food presentation brought me into a romantic mood again. So I thought why don’t we watch a romantic movie. It would bring us even closer and strengthen our love.

The first romantic movie that came to my mind was “An Affair To Remember”. So on the way home we stopped at the local Blockbuster and rented that movie. My husband didn’t say anything and his face didn’t show a slight enthusiasm. I made some popcorn and soft drinks in case we get thirsty. As soon as the movie started his attention was absorbed by popcorn, so I took it away. Hey, you might call me by all the bad words but I’m working on my husband. I am making him a more romantic person. And better of course.

My husband never turns off his phone and keeps it in his pocket. While we were watching the movie his phone vibrated more than twenty times. Yes I was annoyed. But the bigger frustration was when he started typing and sending messages. It wasn’t nice at all. Then he was reading emails, then news and finally I yelled and took away his phone. I needed to go to the bathroom and when I came back he was watching baseball. What a disaster! What am I going to do with that? Why is he acting like this? Am I doing something wrong, maybe my husband will never like anything romantic and will never bring me flowers home?

Political view does it really matter?

When two people get together to live they don’t always consider the political view to be a deal breaker but when it comes to election days the surprise astonishes them. Men assume that woman will take his side and there is no need for her to verbalize her political views. The right for women to vote was given relatively recently, so women still doubt whether they should listen to their husbands. The difference in political views can be difficult in a family life, but at the end being a woman and being able to vote independently leaves you proud.

The recent elections were very intense and full of surprises. People were frustrated as they thought there was no choice. It would have been a woman for the first time or African American. Well, Obama is not quite African American as his mother was white Caucasian and Hillary is not quite a woman too. Ambitious, goal oriented and very strong personality. I don’t think she would have stayed married if she was a real woman. The game of elections of 2008 was very twisted and many women who were ready to finally vote for a strong and smart woman ended up with that Tina Fey, oh, sorry Sarah Palin. She not only ruined the reputation of women but the whole country in front of the world.

Knowing that Obama is smart and non corrupted young man it was his advantage as disadvantage too. Even the big experience of McCain couldn’t help him as somebody did enough job to spoil the whole campaign. So the debates of my man and me were between young but ambitious and old but experienced. All political TV shows and views of were watched 24/7 and still we couldn’t come to a common view as both of us are very stubborn people. Our relationship started to cool down as we started to hanging out with different people and we were trying to avoid each other just not to argue again. After elections were over we just took a little vacation and love was coming back.

I'm proud of my accomplishments

I was so proud when I learnt how to tie my shoe laces. That was one of my first accomplishments I was so proud of. Later, ability to read, play musical instruments, run on marathons and dance like John Travolta. Teenage years and years in university are the best times for political and social activity. I have joined many parties at that time, one was called “Freedom for colored people” and another “Let your wives work”. I was sent on business trips every so often. I was even elected to be the head of student government.

Seeing my friends get medals and certificates would make me envious. It was the best stimulus for me. Just the thought that somebody else is doing better in chemistry would keep me in the library more than a coffee. So a month later I would do better than many people in the class. When nobody is competing with me I loose my interest. The accomplishments are good only when somebody challenges me or I have a competitor. I would never date a guy whom girls don’t even mentioned. I challenged myself to get the best guy in the area and when he looked too busy to date it became even more interesting. Now he is mine and next to him another check mark.

Although I haven’t done much in this life, now when I’m sick and I might have a surgery I am proud of only one accomplishment in my life. It is having my child. It was one of the most pleasurable and hardest experiences that I had. You realize that miracles happen and the biggest one of them is the birth of a human child. So I have accomplished the biggest reason of life. The cycle of life is almost completed for me and it made me remember that many people are not able to complete that one biggest accomplishment of their life

Dating deal breakers

Dating can be very hard. Especially considering how men and women are so different. When a man and woman see another woman they usually think totally two different things. So opposites attract? Can two genders attract each other and at the same time have same goals? Might be, although experience shows that there are many deal breakers in dating. My friends would say it’s mother-in-law and my local friends have mentioned that it can be bad breath, past relationships, bad manners, bad tastes (in clothes, cologne, food, etc).

Sometimes it gets to the point when anything can be a deal breaker. Oh, that’s when it’s too late to be flexible and try to save the relationship. Unless you just started and there is no emotional ties to that person. I met a man online once and after I saw him in the restaurant I realized I didn’t like him.

Well, it was my mistake I agreed for dinner (I was working during the day), but then I wrote him an email saying that I didn’t feel that chemistry was there. It’s one of the most innocent ways to say “good-bye” without hurting the person. Many women prefer to part with a man if he has a bad taste in clothes instead of training him. I think the show “What not to wear” came to help those poor women and men to keep their relationships.

One thing however I wouldn’t tolerate is bad manners. It means a lot to me. I haven’t been raised in a castle with no means of royalty but I do have manners and can behave as a lady. Absence of manners, basic human as well as chivalry is the biggest deal breaker of all times. Any ideas ladies? Well, bring it up but don’t fool me with something like “He gives me flowers every day and I’m tired of it!”.

After a first date how long should a guy wait to call

There is nothing bad in showing your feelings and if a guy meets a girl and he likes her a lot he can call the next day. The only problem are girls. When a girl sees that a guy liked her on a first date and she knows he will call her within 48 hours she starts behaving differently. Men shouldn’t be so logical sometimes because as you’ve heard you can’t explain women by logic. If you wait too long, she might feel abandoned and find another interest, if you call too soon she might put you under her heel. Sometimes you just have to follow your heart and phone ethics or dating ethics.

Many men are too weak to call within that appropriate time and I had that experience. He called me after a week. He might have been choosing another dates or being busy in his basement, but I forgot about him. When he called he apologized and said he has been on a business trip and was busy working. He was a man, he took my honest response as a man. Funny, I felt he liked me a lot but only because he didn’t call me within 48 hours I forgot him and he was dropped into a garbage bin with his number. Later we became very good friends. And I do regret he didn’t call me sooner after our first date, as he is very nice man. But dating him after that insult would mean that I don’t respect myself. If you do not respect yourself, nobody will.

Women should never call a guy after a first date, no matter what. Period. Some women say, what if he is just shy or something happened to him? Well, shy- why do you need a looser who even can’t give a girl he liked a call?! Something happened, that’s too funny. Nothing has happened to him all these 30 or 30 something years and boom, right after your first date he happened to get into a minor car accident and now he is in the hospital thinking about you and can’t even call you. Ha! Again, respect yourself, women! If you want a man call you right after your first date, well make a good first impression. Dress beautifully, smell womanly and behave like a lady. He will not call you as soon as you leave, he will make a second date on the first date.

How much would you spend on your guy for a gift

Usually you hear many people say that it is the thought that counts. The situation gets complicated when your guy is very complicated. He might not be very complicated but since he has achieved a lot in his life and has seen a lot it gets harder to impress him. At the same time you cannot spend much. Why? Why if you love him dearly and ready to give him your world, why not spend reasonable amount.

Yes, it was much easier when you were 6 year olds and was invited to a birthday party. Your mom would buy some toy, wrap it and you are ready to go. If you think the principles haven’t changed much and all that boys need are toys. The market is full of different kinds of gadgets that will help your guy in everyday life. Entertainment is also a big chic. I was surprised there are sites that can find a gift for your guy based on his personality. You can personalize gifts, engrave them just for a little fee and some items come with that special.

You don’t have to get crazy on what to give your man for your anniversary, Valentine’s day or his birth day. Since my guy travels a lot for business I was thinking about giving him an electronic reader from Amazon, but then he has his blackberry and surfs the web anyway. Antiradar was another choice for about $200. Doesn’t matter how successful you are the law in US are equal for everybody, so my man speeds a lot and for the reason of him not being caught I wanted radar. I thought a bit, yes it is very useful and I might use it some time too but it’s not memorable.

I guess my first statement about the thought that counts was right. I stopped my choice on a key chain. It is very special key chain. It has an engraved message that you can see only when you open the chain for valet. Very secret and very special. And costs only around $30 but worth a million.