Monday, November 23, 2009

Humor or looks?

Usually when he is a good looking guy then he is dumb or arrogant. If a guy is outgoing and humorous and nice then he is usually not so good looking. And in most cases they do not come together. Same as men say about women. They want looks and smarts at the same time.
Personality is a very powerful thing, it can melt any icy hard heart. Looks do it too, but only temporary. However first charming effect can be lethal for some poor loving women (or men). I’ve met and dated many men so far, and according to my humble opinion men with personalities burn longer and probability of staying married to such guys is about 90%. Unless you decide to cheat on him. Even though the evening with handsome man can be beautiful, with a nice man it will be gorgeous. I try to make friends with good looking men and be close with middle looks men. Just because I like stability.

When talking about humor I like medium spiced humor. If a man makes you laugh, what else can be better? If a man makes you laugh all the time watch out for some behavioral abnormalities. Maybe I’m wrong, but hey, he has to be serious sometimes too. Good sense of humor is essential, I have only male friends as many girls I’ve met doesn’t seem to get my humor. Their world is narrow by salons, new ways to fold clothes and snotty kids. But simplest jokes still work on them. As for a guy I am seeing and he doesn’t get some of my political jokes about Chavez or Rice, my disappointment doesn’t have borders. Most likely I will not see him again. You can’t just look at the picture all the time, right? Same with food, would you get fool if you keep looking at the pictures of food? No. Same men. Humor, smarts and personality win on the long run anyway

Tuesday, November 10, 2009

My husband wants to learn Russian

Knowing my language was never a prerequisite for men I dated. None of them knew my native language or a couple of other languages I am fluent in. I had a boyfriend before I met my husband that wanted to learn my mother tongue. I must admit I was touched. Only because of his efforts and couple sentences he learnt I was deeply in love with him. You never know what will touch the heart of a woman. My husband wants to learn Russian now. I speak Russian and I learnt it myself but I don’t consider that language my mother tongue so if my man speaks it I wont have a butterflies in my stomach. We were driving and listening to his Russian CD which was honestly annoying as the same sentence was repeated 3-5 times. It was loud too.

I don’t know if I want to teach my husband the language. I don’t have neither patience nor time. We don’t get to spend a lot of time together as a couple and it would be unfair to spend all the time teaching and learning some third language he will never master. The reason he wants to learn Russian is not visiting Russia any time soon, he just thinks it might be useful and wants to show off extra time. I get irritated when he cannot pronounce some difficult words. Phonetics is our challenge at the moment, we don’t even plan to go deeper into grammar or reading. I wanted to learn Spanish myself but because I have so much to do at home and work, plus school full-time I had to give up the idea of having such a hobby.

Men are different. My husband is exceptionally different. He is very stubborn and if he has a goal he will surely reach it. He doesn’t want to learn my language, he says nobody speaks it in US and thus it is useless. He is not romantic at all and I don’t expect him to learn my language just to make me feel special, he is not capable of that. He is very selfish and wants to learn Russian just for his own benefit and I am an opportunity he wants to use free of charge. I have never asked my Latino boyfriends to teach me Spanish, I couldn’t take advantage of people so easily. The most I did was listen to Hispanic music and dances in the clubs.

Friday, November 6, 2009

My Doctor Is So Handsome

My daughter had a toothache last night and we waited till morning to go to a doctor to see what was going on. Next day when we went to dentist we were told she had a new tooth growing and it is painful sometimes. Couple of days later I started having an ache in my jaw. I went to the same dentist and was referred to a maxi facial surgeons, I had a wisdom tooth coming out and it was unbearably painful so I had to get it pulled out. As a result my daughter and I ended up in the office of two young and handsome doctors who helped both of us. However they didn’t take money from me. One of them asked me if he can call me. Hmm, my doctor is asking me out? Well, that’s interesting.

When we were at the restaurant he ordered a bottle of wine and said it will help me with the loss of my tooth. I never drink over my losses, I would be a big alcoholic by now. Anyway, I liked his humor a lot. The biggest thing that women like in men is their capability to make them laugh and my doctor was big in that. Other than that he was very handsome. Tall, black eyebrows, eyelashes that were also black and long and eyes very deep and dark black. Maybe he never got out of his office but he was pale, even I had more tan than him.

It’s very hard for a woman when her doctor and lawyer are handsome, she can never tell the truth. You can’t tell your young and handsome doctor that you are having bad breath or your handsome lawyer that you want to sue your ex husband for a big sum of money. Wine made me cheerful and the atmosphere in the restaurant became more and more cozy. All the time we were dating I was secretly going to another dentist for cleaning and little treatments. Although the benefit was big I went back to him as a patient only after we broke up as a boyfriend and girlfriend.